Hi GQshayne, it’s always better to have the largest alternator you are prepared to fit.
While, as glort pointed out, in city driving, the larger the alternator the higher the current production while in low rev situations, like driving in city traffic, BUT like most RV use, as it is more likely you are going to be on the open road with low batteries so even your 90 amp alternator will be heaps big enough to meet your needs.
Next, most batteries WILL NOT take everything your alternator will put out. While AGMs, is supplied with a high enough VOLTAGE, will take full inrush currents when they are low, there is a big, BIG problem with allowing this to happen.
Contrary to most beliefs that AGMs will take everything an alternator can produce, and while this IS TRUE of automotive grade AGMs like Optima, Odyssey and Orbital batteries, the vast majority of AGMs were never designed for automotive use and while they will take full inrush currents when they are low, they will be damage very quickly if allowed to do so.
If you want to use garden variety AGMs, as long as you fit them somewhere other than the engine bay, the long cable run between the alternator and these types of batteries will act as a quasi voltage/current regulator so the batteries will be fine.
If you fit standard flooded wet cell batteries as your auxiliary battery under bonnet, even if you fitted a 1,000 amp alternator, the battery, not the alternator, will decide how much current the battery will "PULL" from the alternator.
A rough example, at the start of your daily drive out on the open road, if you have a low 100 Ah flooded wet cell battery with a State of Charge ( SoC ) of around 40% and your alternator has an operating voltage of 14v, your auxiliary battery will start recharging at around 35+ amps and this will be the same if you have a 90, 120 or 1,000 amp alternator.
So a 90 amp alternator will easily handle you auxiliary battery’s needs and still leave adequate power to run your vehicle and power a heap of driving lights, BUT if you find you add just one more battery, say in a camper trailer or caravan, then as long as you only drive during day light, you will be fine but night driving will probable push your current requirements above a 90 amp alternators capacity.
This won’t harm the alternator, it will simply lower it’s output voltage while a higher current load is applied but the lower voltage will mean it takes longer to fully charge your batteries.
So GQshayne have a look at what you think your needs will be and pick the size of alternator that will do what you want.
BTW marin, I like your comment ‘Volts are "pushed" and Amps are "pulled"’, a simple but accurate statement.